Smart, Saved & Sexy: The day Abstinence and Celibacy Met UP

Abstinence meaning: 

ab·sti·nence

ˈabstənəns/Submit

noun

the fact or practice of restraining oneself from indulging in something,

Celibacy meaning: 

cel·i·ba·cy

ˈseləbəsē/Submit

noun

the state of abstaining from marriage and sexual relations.

In may of 2012 I enjoyed my last intimate act with the person I said 'I Do' to; not only to him but to anyone. I decided at that point because our lives as husband and wife were on a downward spiral letting go sexually was the start of letting go mentally and spiritually. He didn't notice. God had. 

Abstinence and Celibacy have two different meanings but, depending on your life, help with one thing: being prepared for what God has for you(us) in the long run which is our end result. 

In the midst of this, I share with you TODAY the realities of both from the perspective of a single woman. When I made the decision in 2012, I did so in order to see what my then husband would say or do, because he did nothing it was easy for me to understand and see my lot in life as a woman chosen for ministry and a higher calling. I was able to see and hear what God was saying to me and the assignment at hand. You do realize four years ago I made this spiritual pact. I anxiously await my future king, but I serve God first while waiting.

Today Abstinence and Celibacy have met up. I am sharing this with you because the choices we all must make in our singleness is vital to the doors that must remain closed until our God ordained husbands show up. Doors that must remain intact until God sees fit. This is why I serve and this is why I stay in the position of prayer. 

Ladies your sexuality and sensuality is in held by you in the understanding of WHOM GOD IS AS YOUR FATHER. A father will not put you in a place where you will succumb to temptation, So you have to make the choice to live according the word given us. Your temple, and your call. LINE IT UP WITH THE WORD OF GOD. 

1 Corinthians 6:18-19

1 Corinthians 7: 32-40

1 Corinthians 7:2

Romans 10:17

It is my hope that you are encouraged to do what is necessary in keeping yourself pure until the time the Lord says different. 

Dana Williamson 

Ways to be B.A.D #22: You are a King

Ladies, I know this is our BLOG, but it's time you be the help me to your husband.

NO, I DIDN'T' SAY YOU'RE MAN. I said you HUSBAND.

He is the one that is king of the castle; God made him the head. HE is the one that needs you to see GOD IN HIM. If you don't SEE GOD, that doesnt' mean get a divorce. That means pray for him so that HE SEES GOD IN YOU. Never under estimate your praying power.

Your tongue talks to your mama more than it speaks to GOD about your marriage. That is not treating your husband like a king, that is treating HIM LIKE A CHILD. Get on your knees and pray for his well being.

Cook
Clean
Work/do business
Encourage
Motivate
Speak highly of
Help him....

HE IS YOUR KING...so QUIT PLAYING

Motherly Wisdom #23: The wife is submissive to the husband

Very short and to the point: WIVES YOU SUBMIT TO YOUR HUSBAND ONLY. This is the husband that God sent, because your hubby is submitting and obeying GOD. This the husband that cleaves to you and leaves his parents. THIS IS THE HUSBAND THAT PUTS YOU SECOND TO GOD..not anyone else.

You don't submit to your parents, or HIS; you don't' put the KIDS FIRST or anyone else. 

Yes, you better stay on your knees, in prayer,  for your husband because you don't have time to play with God. Stay on your knees for your husband, because he needs you in the background to help him press through the front. Stay on your knees for your husband, because he is the head.

Your husband is the one God sent to take care of home, build you up and support you. Don't disrespect your husband or you'll be disrespecting God.


Dana Neal
Coach and Mama!

the lock on the door

I took about 3-4 months creating a poetry book that would be strictly for the married. The poems were a part of me and where I wanted things to BE in my marriage. I so believe that marriage takes work and you have to work it (ladies and gentlemen) to keep the flame alive.

Some of these poems really touch the inside of your intimate places. My married freiends...don't get shy now! Get the poetry book; take a day off, get a hotel room with your spouse....and let the emotions..flow...

the lock on the door

This collection of intimate poems helps bring the mind's eye back to the first kiss, the I-do, and the first love. Re-igniting the senses to help rekindle the flame.

Stop Making Me YOUR Excuse

There was a time, when I was a young girl, that I blamed myself for how people treated me. I felt that I was the problem for the adults and the fellow friends. As I grew up, I continued to beat up on myself regarding the relationships I had with people and the results there of.

I finally woke up.

I woke up when I realized that every WRONG thing I did as child, God would forgive me, and HE did. I finally realized that what others CHOOSE to do was a result of what THEY felt they needed to do, not by any thing I did to them.

I realized that how WE act and react to others is by response of the spirit within us. NO one can make us do anything we do NOT already want to do. Just the evil or the good held within dictates to us in our inner ear.

So what happens next? Well, first off, I want to tell all those connected to me in some way shape or form; if I offended you with my cut throat in your face reality of what GOD really wants, and you don't like it...stop. JUST STOP making me your excuse for the relationship we now have. No matter what you think and how many spiritual cosigners you need, I love you with the love of the Lord and according to God's bible, not the man made doctrine's that have been dictated to us all these years.

Secondly, those of you that have been connected with me through ministry, business, this blog or more, understand that your life on this earth is going to end. Be ready for it when you take a moment to look at your life and what you have done to others. How will God look at you? Have you repented of any wrongs? Not everything you have done is wrong so you have to look at it all. Be ready for your friends and colleagues to use you as an excuse for their actions.

I did this as a child, looking at all of me and I had trouble understanding God's work in my life. I did not SEE it or understand it until about 3 years ago when my body was totally clear of all liquor and things that hurt my temple(my body). I started to see how the smallest miracles are just as GRAND as the large ones I was waiting on. I looked at how I treated people in business, and in life; I looked at how I shared myself with my now husband and how it was MISUNDERSTOOD. I looked at how open my book of life was used against me and how, right now, I am still misunderstood and rejected.

Although I am misunderstood and rejected, I am not going to allow my "connections" to make me their excuse. I follow a command that is not part of the Ten Commandments and I share it with others so that they understand: Ezekiel 33:8
When I say to the wicked, ‘O wicked man, you shall surely die!’ and you do not speak to warn the wicked from his way, that wicked man shall die in his iniquity; but his blood I will require at your hand.

This is important. WHY? I know God's word...I do NOT apply what I like to my life and leave what I don't like. So, when I share what the word says and you don't like me for sharing it..too bad. WHY? My salvation is more important than how you feel about the word that is needed for you. Once you, saints, figure out that the life you have should show Christ's light and illuminate to all not just who you pick and choose and that YOUR salvation is just as important (actually more important) than the car you drive you will realize that all else means nothing. Don't fail...don't stop...and please don't keep using ME as your excuse. I am nothing but a breathe on this earth....

Thinking Thursday~~Being IN Love Again

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Sometimes when you have been married for so long,you forget how to be IN love. The bible tells us to love one another regardless of everything. All the faults, all the wrongs, all the everything!

Some verses I want to share with you are from the Lord. Guiding us in loving.

1 John 3:11-24
This is the message you heard from the beginning: We should love one another. Do not be like Cain, who belinged to the evil on and murdered his brother. And why did he murder him? Because his own actions were evil and his brother's were righteous. Do not be surprised, my brothers, if the world hates you. We know that we have passed from death to life, because we love our brothers. Anyone who hates his brother is a msurderer, and you know that no murderer has eternal life in him.
This is how we know what love is: Jesus Christ laid down his life for us. And we ought to lay down our lives for our brothers. If anyone has material possessions and sees his brother in need but has no pity on him, how can the love of God be in him? Dear children, let us not love with words or tongue but with actions and in truth. This then is how we know that we belong to the truth, and how we set our hearts at rest in his presence henever our hearts condemn us. For God is greater than our hearrts, and he knows everything. Dear friends, if our hearts do not condemn us, we have confidence before God and receive frm him antyhing we ask, because we obey his commands and do wath pleases him. And this is his command; to believe in the name of his Son, jesus Christ, and to love one another as he commanded us. Those who obey his commands live in him, and he in them. And this is how we know that he lives in us: We know it by the Spirit he gave us.

Song of Songs (solomn)
3:1
All night long on my bed I looked for the one my heart loves; I looked for him but did not find him.

I believe most women want to be IN love again with their husbands. Sometimes the struggles in life and and in love bring an emotional down fall and we don't know what to do.
I believe that most husbands were taught to take care of the physical, material issues in the home and that everything else would be secondary. I believe that most men, were taught that emotions didn't matter.
After so many years, each one are trying to fall in love again and not look at what happened in the past.
How do you get there? Where do you start? First, start with what love is and how it should be handled in the marriage. Second, start with what love isn't and how respectful each spouse should be to the other.
Although we choose to love, it is something we HAVE TO CHOOSE TO DO. In 1st John we are shown that if we don't love, God isn't in us.
I want to walk with the God in me instead of not. My salvation is important.
In a marriage the salvation of both are important. The light shines from the husband and wife and the kids see it. Our love to each other is helping whomever is watching us (mainly, our children, then our famiy, then our friends)

If you don't feel IN love. Fall in love again with your spouse by creating an atmosphere pleasurable to your mate.
1. Read your bible and smile with the glory of God in your heart and your mind!
2. Love your husband/wife despite the things you don't like about them
3. Respect each other
4. Read the song of songs(solomn) to each other
5. Ask God to place a new heart in you for your spouse
6. Thank them for being them
7. If you need counseling...get it!
8. Go on a retreat/conference just for married persons.

God bless you in all that you do for your marriage and your family.

Blessing your husband!!!

Ladies, let me say something about being sexy. You are only as beautiful as you think you are. Gentlemen, love your wives as you love yourself. Now you know that we need you to say the right thing. Not what we want to hear~~that's not biblical or wise. Ladies we have to learn that. Because those black pants from two years ago that now look grey...you husband told a story...they are not cute!!

But, but, when you slip off those grey/black pants to give to goodwill or the salvation army, take them off for your husband! Be intimate with him. Changing those tight grey pants from a chore to tearing off wrapping paper to a beautiful thing. You!

Bless your husband with your presence. Give him your essence...let him see you all over again, and if he loves you the weight won't matter.

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Heart of the Wife (Part 1)

Praise God today reading audience!!! It's in my heart to be the women to teach the younger women to be wives. Oh yes, I'm still learning....but I'm praying along the way!! So this post is just for the ladies; please free your minds of all negativity. Walk with the spirit...hold hands with our Lord while you meditate on these words...when you are done, pray about your husbands and their minds, their attitudes..their intimacy.

Pro. 5:19 a loving doe, a grace deer--may (my) breast satisfy you always may you ever be captivated by (my) love.

Song of Solomon(Songs) 5:16 His mouth is sweetness itself;he is altogether lovely This is my lover this is my friend, o daugthers of Jerusalem.

Song of Solomon(songs) 7 10 I belong to my lover, and his desire is for me.

The spirit is telling me to revisit this subject again. Be able to share the scripture and help the heart.
Praise God that I have chosen to love.....my husband