Thursday, February 14, 2008

Thinking Thursday~~Being IN Love Again

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Sometimes when you have been married for so long,you forget how to be IN love. The bible tells us to love one another regardless of everything. All the faults, all the wrongs, all the everything!

Some verses I want to share with you are from the Lord. Guiding us in loving.

1 John 3:11-24
This is the message you heard from the beginning: We should love one another. Do not be like Cain, who belinged to the evil on and murdered his brother. And why did he murder him? Because his own actions were evil and his brother's were righteous. Do not be surprised, my brothers, if the world hates you. We know that we have passed from death to life, because we love our brothers. Anyone who hates his brother is a msurderer, and you know that no murderer has eternal life in him.
This is how we know what love is: Jesus Christ laid down his life for us. And we ought to lay down our lives for our brothers. If anyone has material possessions and sees his brother in need but has no pity on him, how can the love of God be in him? Dear children, let us not love with words or tongue but with actions and in truth. This then is how we know that we belong to the truth, and how we set our hearts at rest in his presence henever our hearts condemn us. For God is greater than our hearrts, and he knows everything. Dear friends, if our hearts do not condemn us, we have confidence before God and receive frm him antyhing we ask, because we obey his commands and do wath pleases him. And this is his command; to believe in the name of his Son, jesus Christ, and to love one another as he commanded us. Those who obey his commands live in him, and he in them. And this is how we know that he lives in us: We know it by the Spirit he gave us.

Song of Songs (solomn)
3:1
All night long on my bed I looked for the one my heart loves; I looked for him but did not find him.

I believe most women want to be IN love again with their husbands. Sometimes the struggles in life and and in love bring an emotional down fall and we don't know what to do.
I believe that most husbands were taught to take care of the physical, material issues in the home and that everything else would be secondary. I believe that most men, were taught that emotions didn't matter.
After so many years, each one are trying to fall in love again and not look at what happened in the past.
How do you get there? Where do you start? First, start with what love is and how it should be handled in the marriage. Second, start with what love isn't and how respectful each spouse should be to the other.
Although we choose to love, it is something we HAVE TO CHOOSE TO DO. In 1st John we are shown that if we don't love, God isn't in us.
I want to walk with the God in me instead of not. My salvation is important.
In a marriage the salvation of both are important. The light shines from the husband and wife and the kids see it. Our love to each other is helping whomever is watching us (mainly, our children, then our famiy, then our friends)

If you don't feel IN love. Fall in love again with your spouse by creating an atmosphere pleasurable to your mate.
1. Read your bible and smile with the glory of God in your heart and your mind!
2. Love your husband/wife despite the things you don't like about them
3. Respect each other
4. Read the song of songs(solomn) to each other
5. Ask God to place a new heart in you for your spouse
6. Thank them for being them
7. If you need counseling...get it!
8. Go on a retreat/conference just for married persons.

God bless you in all that you do for your marriage and your family.

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