Motherly Wisdom #31: WE GAVE YOU LIFE

There is always an argument that I have with my children about what I did or didn't let them do, and my answer is I GAVE YOU LIFE. 

But even in giving them life, there is never a time that I regret having them. So to encourage the child, I want you all to know that we never regret having you. 

I had my daughter on Christmas day 25 years ago; she is my oldest. Then my other two were born; I got married and we all became a blended family. I have four children if anyone EVER ASKS!! I was 18 when I had my daughter; I don't regret it. The timing might have been too early, but I never gave up on thinking I would never live. 

Now, even though my kids will ever understand some of the sacrifices I made while trying to raise them, I remind them that I did give them LIFE. I could have chosen to live my life first, but I didn't. I could have just only had one child, but I didn't. I'm blessed and highly favored! 

Dana Neal

Coach and Mama

Thank you all for being a part of the 31 days of Motherly Wisdom. It just happened and it has been enlightening for all! God bless! 

Motherly Wisdom #30: Mom's are secret agents

Yes, Mom's are secret agents. The troublesome part you must accept is that we're WORSE THAN THE MAFIA! (I'm giving away secrets here)



Let me tell you, with all the hood language I can muster: MOM'S HAVE EVERYONE ON SPEED DIAL. Whether its police, school teachers, spies, majors, presidents, etc. Yes, we have it. This Rolodex is not public, but always accessible.

• When it comes to our kids and their well being, we can make life look a mess, or perfect w/o flinching. 
• We can sneak on school grounds unnoticed because we have cars at out finger tips (and no they aren't rentals!
• We can pull money out of an hat because we call in favors
• We can have our sons and daughters followed...

Okay I"m done. We're secret agents..that's all you're getting.

Dana Neal
Coach and Mama

Motherly Wisdom #29: MAMA IS SUPERWOMAN!

Yes, MAMA IS SUPERWOMAN! She just doesn't wear her cape EVERYDAY! please....

WE do it all no matter what age. No matter what is going on in life, we are HANDLE IT ALL. I mean, (transparent again), I love my husband, and he is very good at a lot of things, but I'M THE ONE THAT ONLY PANICS WHEN A KIDS IS HURT. That other financial, bank accounts on E non-sense..No, I'll work it out. How? I go to God and He says what to do next. Truly. I have no other choice! Remember the closet post? okay.

So, with that, understand that MOM'S are SUPERWOMEN, and we're very sexy at it.

 As a mom, you can say what you want about me, but I will go SUPERMAN MEETS JOKER ON YOU ABOUT MY CHILDREN. I will also let you know that AS SUPERWOMAN, I'm backed up by my faith. (did you laugh yet?--good)

We find money for lunch where there was zero dollars. We create meals out of cardboard and fruit punch. WE save money when we don't have $5. SUPERWOMEN! When the kids fall from the swings, we are there in a MILLISECOND. When school calls, before they can hang up, WE'RE AT THE DOOR! 

I know I'm superwoman. I have 1000000000 resources to build a business, and take care of the BLOCK. 

Women, don't let them tell you that you aren't super! We know how to handle it. 

SUPERWOMAN! 

Dana Neal

Coach and  Mama

Motherly Wisdom #28: Mom's go in their closets. ‪#‎catchthat‬

Mom's don't have anyone to lean on, so they go in their closets; do you want to know what that means? WE go to GOD! 

WE don't have a choice, but to go to GOD. Ya'll have lost your minds, so we have to go prayer. I mean, sure we can call a friend, lean on our husbands (or try to), but the only that can bring about a change, is GOD. 

Whew yes! The LORD is the answer! God in the closet, close the door and don't come back out until WE GET THE MESSAGE. If you dont' hear from us for hours, that's why; if you never hear from us again, check the closet. 

Let me say that no matter what is going right, MAMA HAS GONE TO THRONE FOR YOU. No matter what is going WRONG, MAMA IS GOING TO THE THRONE. See, we SAVED PARENTS know, that if we just TALK ABOUT IT, God is coming for that, but if we BE ABOUT IT, we can get HELP. 

The closet is the best place to get some quiet. I'm not sure what is going on the closet, but the world ceases to exist in there. There you can hear both sides of the universe: the earth and the spirit realm. (well that would depend on who you are, and if you wait on God to answer). 

As a mom, I know that it takes work for families, and this is our JOB. 

Dana Neal

Coach and Mama 

Motherly Wisdom #27: Family is a lot more than what MONEY CAN BUY!

Someone taught me years ago what family means. When THAT PERSON left the earth...yeah..well..
I miss her, but I'll say this, I think poor families have the most love in their lives because they didn't have money to cover up their weaknesses. 

Families spent time at home, having birthday parties, or bar-b-ques; they watched football, or movies. 

Neighborhood families spent time together not spent money. When someone is gone, they hurt, not because they didn't do enough, but because they are not longer there. Family is a lot more than WHAT MONEY CAN BUY. 


I like money. I want more of it. I'm truly working my way towards BILLIONAIRE STATUS, but I want family more than ever. I want the support from the people that I think should love me unconditionally. 

Let me be transparent again: for the past 3 Sundays, I have been having family dinner. We would increase in numbers little by little. We only eat and leave (an hour or so), but we come together. I want to be able to have everyone come together and really sit and chat, but its hard. Either way, I want us together. Let us get to know each other. See, FAMILY IS MORE THAN MONEY BUY. I failed, but I'M TRYING NOW. 

I thank God for Esther Russell and what she taught me. Miss you.................


Dana Neal 
Coach and Mama 

Motherly Wisdom #26: Mom loves you more than money

I can share this now, because it is AFTER CHRISTMAS, and a lot of you have received your gifts or received nothing.

As a parent, WE LOVE YOU MORE THAN MONEY. Your lives mean more to us than what you can buy us. Gifts are great, but they are an added addition to what we already have in you, and that is LOVE, RESPECT, TRUST. (please go back and review Motherly Wisdom 24)

Gifts can be stolen and replaced, but life cannot be. Let me help some of you mothers with a little transparency here: MY KIDS AREN'T PERFECT EITHER, but I love them just the same. I MIGHT be a little disappointed in the lives they have chosen to live, but ITS THERE LIFE AND THEY ARE GROWN.

Whew..now that that's over.

Mom loves you more than money. Money is good to have, but not where i takes over your life. Let me tell you that on some point, when you have your own kids, you will realize you can't give them everything that you want to, but you can share with them LOVE......

SO #CATCHTHIS: DON'T COMPLAIN ABOUT WHAT MAMA ISNT' DOING, WHEN SHE'S STILL LOVING YOU!


Dana Neal
Coach and Mama!!

Motherly Wisdom #25: Mama Trusts God; Jump on the Bandwagon

A faith filled life is beneficial for you. Why? God controls everything; that's why. Mama trusts GOD.

Walking WITH GOD is better than WALKING WITHOUT HIM. There is too much going on right now in our world to live without him. Even though your life has been questionable, if you are reading this right now, you have a chance to repent and get on the right path. Let me tell you, I wasn't always where I am right now, but I"m thankful that God didn't let go of me. I must also share that walking this walk as a ministry leader has been lonely, but I won't stop walking.

See, as MAMA, I' won't let go of my faith filled, loving relationship with GOD, because I know where I want to end up, when HE CALLS ME HOME. I trust God, because during those times I was hungry, he fed me. During those times, that I was looking for answers, HE SENT THEM. During those times I thought I couldn't make it, HE WAS THERE TO MAKE SURE I DID.

See, you have to TRUST GOD, because you already BELIEVE IN THE DEVIL. What? What's that MAMA DANA? Yes, you already believe in the devil. Everything you do that you know isn't right, IS PROOF THAT YOU KNOW EVIL EXISTS, you just don't realize how GOOD AND BAD come together to test your mental, FAITH BASED capabilities.

So, there you have it. JUMP ON THE BANDWAGON and TRUST GOD TOO!


Dana Neal
Coach and Mama

Motherly Wisdom #24: There is a reason you don't have keys

Most children have keys to their parents house. Some of them don't; there is a reason for that. What is the reason? TRUST!

Just because she birthed you doesn't mean she trusts you. Why? Somewhere down the line, your LOST YOUR MIND. Lost it. Do you think she wants your empty body roaming around her house? There is no reason why MAMA should give you a set of keys, and then have to lock her bedroom door.

When you run the streets, stay there!

Another reason why you don't have keys, is because you trust everyone OUT THERE more than you RESPECT MAMA IN HERE. Yes there is a reason you don't' have keys. Mama doesn't want just ANYBODY IN HER HOUSE, and she can't trust YOU to respect that.

Now some of you do have keys. Why? Mama can trust you. Think about your life as you were growing up and you can really get an answer on why or why not, in regards to the keys.

There is always a REASON!


Dana Neal
Coach and Mama

Motherly Wisdom #22: I told you so!

There is nothing like stepping back and watching things unfold exactly like you said it would. I mean truly we don't want to say I told you so, but it happens. I watch my children ignore what I say, or just say okay Mom, but then after about 2 or 3 weeks, I find out it happened just like I said. I try  not to laugh, but I just WAIT FOR IT.

Our purpose and plans, as parents, is to teach and hope that our children grasp on to what is necessary for their lives. If they decide that they don't want to do what MAMA says, that's fine. But when they keep getting a bloody nose, because they keep hitting a brick wall, just hand them the towel and keep walking. 

No, I'm not trying to be mean. I'm being honest. The truth shall set you free! If my mother wasn't so mean about the truth, I might have listened as I got older, but that's another lesson on the couch with the LORD. 

None the less, try not to tell them I TOLD YOU SO. Just wait for it! 

Dana Neal

Coach and Mama 

Motherly Wisdom #19: Remember the 4th Commandment

If at first you don't succeed, remember the 4th commandment about honoring your parents.

Okay, this may be a tough pill to swallow, but some of the issues our children have, even those that have fallen at deaths door is because of them not obeying GOD. They don't have to believe in God to realize they are disobeying HIM. Walking in a lie doesn't save anyone, but what has happened, is the walk AWAY FROM a commandment that comes with a promise.

There is no more hand holding. I have said, previously, that you must shake the dust. I have also said that tough love is only tough on the MOTHER, not the child, because we, moms, want to hold on to our children.

We can't hold on! At some point we have to realize that GOD IS IN CONTROL.

Children, if you want to live a long life, you must honor your parents. If you want to run past those bullets like the matrix, think about how you respect, or not, your parents. Remember the 4th commandment, it protects!

Dana Neal
Coach and Mama

Motherly Wisdom #18: Stop Running from Your Mother

You will never win brownie points with God running from your mother. Why in the world do you keep running from instruction anyway?

What does the fourth commandment say? Honor Your father and MOTHER?  Come on now! If you want to die tomorrow, keep running. 

You don't have time question everything your parents say or do, unless it is against the word of God, unless you're ready to look death in the face. Stop running from your mother and what she's suggesting you do; give her honor, in UNDERSTANDING, and attempting to BE what GOD IS CALLING YOU TO BE, because that is what is COMING OUT OF YOUR MOTHER'S MOUTH! 

Parents are to show you the way. Yes, they may have made plenty of mistake along the way, but they dont' want you to make the same. Mothers love on you immensely, and try to keep you protected until they just can't, but even as mothers, we have to step back. There is no TOUGH LOVE in stepping back to the CHILD, it is more tough love ON THE MOTHER. 

Stop running and start realizing that your mother....means the best for you!

Dana Neal

Coach and Mama! 

Motherly Wisdom #16: Put the Bills on the Table

 Put the bills on the table,  OPEN, and see what they say. If they say NOTHING pack their bags and see what they say

Put those bills out there for your kids to see,  and say READ THIS, who is handling this? Are you paying for this? Are you helping pay any of this? 

Then SHUT UP! 

Yes, I said it. You don't have time to explain to CHILDREN, how things are being paid, OR NOT, unless they are doing something to help get it paid. 

Children must stay in a child's place. Let me share this to help some of you:

Even if my bills are late, if the lights are on, the heat is on, the roof is still over our heads, WE'RE MAKING IT, by what MAMA has put together or figured out! 

Children get of age and think they can say whatever, but HONEY, they better be ready to move if they don't have any cash to help MAKE IT WORK!! 

So, parents, put the bills on the table. 


Dana Neal 
Coach and Mama

Motherly Wisdom #8: Mama's Got it Together

 When her back is against the wall, you can best believe..... wait, her back isn't ever against the wall. Yes, I said it and that's all! 

Mom's will never let her push you so far back that she hits the wall and doesn't fight back. You will never get that far, so...


over...

Dana Neal
Coach and Mama! 

Motherly Wisdom #6: Because its the Right thing TO DO!

If you offer to help your parents because you know its the right thing to do, Mama can rest assured you were raised right. 

Sometimes, as parents, we get discouraged as our children get older. I have experienced where my children forgot where they came from, BUT GOD. Yes, GOD!  He keeps them from being murdered. 

Anyway, children, you should be helping your parents because its the right thing to do. They DID RAISE YOU PROPERLY. 

If you even offer to help, don't rub it in their faces. They can take you life back. Believe me..I know, and will settle for the consequences! 



Dana Neal
Coach and Mama!  

Motherly Wisdom #5: It's not the Material Things

Let's face it, if you truly think a gift makes it all better, you are so sadly mistaken. I mean, as a mother, if you have been ignorant, you better believe buying ME A PRESENT won't change how ignorant you PROBABLY STILL ARE; there is no substitution for that.  

If you think material things makes it all better you're wrong, unless you're paying rent and buying Mama diamonds. Yes, I diamonds might help, but rent would be better. 

I'm sharing this THIS WAY, because some of your children, are truly using and abusing you, and THINK, that a gift makes it all better. 

Where do they get that mindset? What is wrong with them and the intelligence God gave them? Why not just act right? Why not just do right? 

I know from my MOTHERLY EXPERIENCE, that my children have tried this with me and it has utterly failed! EPIC FAIL. I would rather go without than have them continue to be foolish about what matters most to me. 

What does matter most? THAT THEY CHANGE THEIR MINDSET AND GROW UP. 

You might be thinking the same thing about your children, may be not; either way, don't let material things trump the life you want them to lead, and how they respect you in the process. 

Dana Neal
Coach and Mama! 

Motherly Widom #3: Grand-kids see all

 Grand-kids are the epitome of time right now;nothing like their parents at that age. 

What I mean is, when you look at your grandchildren, they aren't acting like their parents did, they are acting like how their parents are teaching them now. 

I look at my grandchildren and I see how they are learning EVERY LITTLE THING IN LIFE right now. Whether its how they eat, or how they argue, how they clean, or how they sleep, I see what my daughter does at home through them. 

It is a blessing to see them catch on to some things so minute, but then again, you want them to just have a life fit for them in their little bodies. 

Keep a close watch on your grand-children; any hurt harm or danger, you will see in their actions and reactions. 


Dana Neal 
Coach and Mama! 

Motherly Wisdom #2: We're Good

The best is in your own 4 walls; don't compare everyone else's triumphs to your trials. 
My mother always compared me to others. I tried never to do that to my children. If they received 4.0's or 0.0's they were still my children and I loved them. I encouraged them and would want to help them achieve what they could for them. In OUR HOUSE, that's what mattered. 

What everyone else could and could not do in THEIR house was not our issue. WE'RE GOOD. That is the understanding that is important to gather. What is best in your own four walls, should be best. 

Never compare your children to someone else, and never undermine their test and trials as mediocre. As a mother, you shouldn't be a friend, but you shouldn't be a hindrance either. 

Look at your life right now, and determine have you been hurting your house, or helping it? Remember the Proverbs 31 Woman, she didn't sleep, and her best benefit was to her HOUSE, not the neighbors! 


Let them know WE'RE GOOD

Dana Neal
Coach and Mama!