Who are you as a Woman?

As women, we are always challenged in understanding where we are to understand whom we are; I ask you today to put yourself on the other side of this question and get the answer. 

WHO ARE YOU AS A WOMAN?

In my B.A.D. Queens of the Round-Table group, I continuously ask the women what they bring to the table? The table of business? The family table? or even ministry..what do YOU bring to the table? 

What do you think about yourself that allows you to be EVERY WOMAN in and around your life? 

I watched Unsung Hollywood with a special on Meagan Good and I was intrigued by her ups and downs in life. I was especially intrigued by her recent marriage to Minister Devon Franklin. Not that he's a minister, but, from her story, she finally received her blessed relationship. 

Nonetheless, the questions isn't to determine your lack of self worth or how much you value you; it is to take inventory of what you think. 

Make a list of your trials and triumphs. 

In that list what are you really proud of FIRST, then make a list of the things you can deal without. 

Each list makes you whom you are however good or bad it is; don't take anything for granted. 

When you look at what you don't like, ask yourself what was going on in your life causing the negative outcome. If things have changed make note of what you did that caused the positive change; if it has not changed ask yourself what do you need deliverance from. 

Who you are is very important to your future as well as those around you! Make note. Get help (deliverance) and move forward!! 

Motherly Wisdom #31: WE GAVE YOU LIFE

There is always an argument that I have with my children about what I did or didn't let them do, and my answer is I GAVE YOU LIFE. 

But even in giving them life, there is never a time that I regret having them. So to encourage the child, I want you all to know that we never regret having you. 

I had my daughter on Christmas day 25 years ago; she is my oldest. Then my other two were born; I got married and we all became a blended family. I have four children if anyone EVER ASKS!! I was 18 when I had my daughter; I don't regret it. The timing might have been too early, but I never gave up on thinking I would never live. 

Now, even though my kids will ever understand some of the sacrifices I made while trying to raise them, I remind them that I did give them LIFE. I could have chosen to live my life first, but I didn't. I could have just only had one child, but I didn't. I'm blessed and highly favored! 

Dana Neal

Coach and Mama

Thank you all for being a part of the 31 days of Motherly Wisdom. It just happened and it has been enlightening for all! God bless! 

Motherly Wisdom #30: Mom's are secret agents

Yes, Mom's are secret agents. The troublesome part you must accept is that we're WORSE THAN THE MAFIA! (I'm giving away secrets here)



Let me tell you, with all the hood language I can muster: MOM'S HAVE EVERYONE ON SPEED DIAL. Whether its police, school teachers, spies, majors, presidents, etc. Yes, we have it. This Rolodex is not public, but always accessible.

• When it comes to our kids and their well being, we can make life look a mess, or perfect w/o flinching. 
• We can sneak on school grounds unnoticed because we have cars at out finger tips (and no they aren't rentals!
• We can pull money out of an hat because we call in favors
• We can have our sons and daughters followed...

Okay I"m done. We're secret agents..that's all you're getting.

Dana Neal
Coach and Mama

Motherly Wisdom #29: MAMA IS SUPERWOMAN!

Yes, MAMA IS SUPERWOMAN! She just doesn't wear her cape EVERYDAY! please....

WE do it all no matter what age. No matter what is going on in life, we are HANDLE IT ALL. I mean, (transparent again), I love my husband, and he is very good at a lot of things, but I'M THE ONE THAT ONLY PANICS WHEN A KIDS IS HURT. That other financial, bank accounts on E non-sense..No, I'll work it out. How? I go to God and He says what to do next. Truly. I have no other choice! Remember the closet post? okay.

So, with that, understand that MOM'S are SUPERWOMEN, and we're very sexy at it.

 As a mom, you can say what you want about me, but I will go SUPERMAN MEETS JOKER ON YOU ABOUT MY CHILDREN. I will also let you know that AS SUPERWOMAN, I'm backed up by my faith. (did you laugh yet?--good)

We find money for lunch where there was zero dollars. We create meals out of cardboard and fruit punch. WE save money when we don't have $5. SUPERWOMEN! When the kids fall from the swings, we are there in a MILLISECOND. When school calls, before they can hang up, WE'RE AT THE DOOR! 

I know I'm superwoman. I have 1000000000 resources to build a business, and take care of the BLOCK. 

Women, don't let them tell you that you aren't super! We know how to handle it. 

SUPERWOMAN! 

Dana Neal

Coach and  Mama

Motherly Wisdom #25: Mama Trusts God; Jump on the Bandwagon

A faith filled life is beneficial for you. Why? God controls everything; that's why. Mama trusts GOD.

Walking WITH GOD is better than WALKING WITHOUT HIM. There is too much going on right now in our world to live without him. Even though your life has been questionable, if you are reading this right now, you have a chance to repent and get on the right path. Let me tell you, I wasn't always where I am right now, but I"m thankful that God didn't let go of me. I must also share that walking this walk as a ministry leader has been lonely, but I won't stop walking.

See, as MAMA, I' won't let go of my faith filled, loving relationship with GOD, because I know where I want to end up, when HE CALLS ME HOME. I trust God, because during those times I was hungry, he fed me. During those times, that I was looking for answers, HE SENT THEM. During those times I thought I couldn't make it, HE WAS THERE TO MAKE SURE I DID.

See, you have to TRUST GOD, because you already BELIEVE IN THE DEVIL. What? What's that MAMA DANA? Yes, you already believe in the devil. Everything you do that you know isn't right, IS PROOF THAT YOU KNOW EVIL EXISTS, you just don't realize how GOOD AND BAD come together to test your mental, FAITH BASED capabilities.

So, there you have it. JUMP ON THE BANDWAGON and TRUST GOD TOO!


Dana Neal
Coach and Mama

Motherly Wisdom #24: There is a reason you don't have keys

Most children have keys to their parents house. Some of them don't; there is a reason for that. What is the reason? TRUST!

Just because she birthed you doesn't mean she trusts you. Why? Somewhere down the line, your LOST YOUR MIND. Lost it. Do you think she wants your empty body roaming around her house? There is no reason why MAMA should give you a set of keys, and then have to lock her bedroom door.

When you run the streets, stay there!

Another reason why you don't have keys, is because you trust everyone OUT THERE more than you RESPECT MAMA IN HERE. Yes there is a reason you don't' have keys. Mama doesn't want just ANYBODY IN HER HOUSE, and she can't trust YOU to respect that.

Now some of you do have keys. Why? Mama can trust you. Think about your life as you were growing up and you can really get an answer on why or why not, in regards to the keys.

There is always a REASON!


Dana Neal
Coach and Mama

Motherly Wisdom #21: I'm just the grandmother, not the mother.

I love my grand children. I do, but at the end of the day/weekend they go home. I'm not the one to come in and change how my daughter decides to raise her kids. 

{side bar: if she does them any wrong, she'll suffer the wrath of God through Mama; WATCH!}

My grandchildren are a blessing. I want to tell me daughter this or that to help keep them safe, and raise them right, but in all actuality, they are her children. Ladies, you have to realize you can't RE-RAISE your kids through your GRANDCHILDREN; you will develop a horrible relationship with your children (men or women). Understand that regardless of whatever you are the grandmother, not the mother. 

Dana Neal

Coach and Mama! 

Motherly Wisdom #20: Let Go

The toughest part we go through in loving our children is letting go. We have to take our hands off of our adult children in order to allow GOD TO DO WHAT HE HAS TO DO.

It's hard, because they are our FLESH AND BLOOD, but as saints, OUR FLESH DIES DAILY. When our flesh dies, our wants and needs IN THE FLESH need to die as well.

Let me express to you that the end result of their choices in their lives, have nothing to do with what we taught them, or tried to teach them; it has to do with what their flesh wants.  Our children, and their CURRENT LIVES, are by the choices they have made.

LET GO. Just give it up, and live. Give up the control and let God have HIS WAY. Your insight from today forth should be on letting them learn from the lessons that God has for them. Bless you mothers, as you get the wisdom and let!

It's tough, but necessary


Dana Neal
Coach and Mama!

Motherly Wisdom #18: Stop Running from Your Mother

You will never win brownie points with God running from your mother. Why in the world do you keep running from instruction anyway?

What does the fourth commandment say? Honor Your father and MOTHER?  Come on now! If you want to die tomorrow, keep running. 

You don't have time question everything your parents say or do, unless it is against the word of God, unless you're ready to look death in the face. Stop running from your mother and what she's suggesting you do; give her honor, in UNDERSTANDING, and attempting to BE what GOD IS CALLING YOU TO BE, because that is what is COMING OUT OF YOUR MOTHER'S MOUTH! 

Parents are to show you the way. Yes, they may have made plenty of mistake along the way, but they dont' want you to make the same. Mothers love on you immensely, and try to keep you protected until they just can't, but even as mothers, we have to step back. There is no TOUGH LOVE in stepping back to the CHILD, it is more tough love ON THE MOTHER. 

Stop running and start realizing that your mother....means the best for you!

Dana Neal

Coach and Mama! 

Motherly Wisdom #17: Shake the Dust

If they see God but still refuse to act right, shake the DUST!

Moms, we don't have time for this back and forth. They either want to do what's RIGHT, or they don't. 

It's time out for all of this and time to SHAKE THE DUST. The dust shaking is not you leaving them in the dust, but you saying, I'm not going to keep BUSTING MY SELF OVER THE HEAD FOR YOU. 

As parents, we have to use the wisdom God gave us, and remember that if we continue to let people pull on us and drain us, we're not using wisdom; we're walking in emotion. 

Shaking the dust means, you are walking away from quick sand! 


Dana Neal
Coach and Mama

Motherly Wisdom 15: Do your very best!

Just do your very best, parents. 

Your upbringing, your experiences, and your responses to life is how things will 'play out' in your children as adults. If you did YOUR BEST, not your moms best, your cousins best, or Granny's best, but YOUR BEST, stop beating yourself up and live. 

Every day we wake up to a new day, wondering what it will bring. Everyday we look at the new day as a time of trying to get over yesterday. Yesterday, is not our problem nor is it ours to take back.

I sit here some time and wonder what mistakes I made in life to get treated the way I do, then, I realize it is me bringing up the past that hurts me so. I have done all I could with and in everyone around me; it was MY VERY BEST. It might have been low standard for others, or too much for some, but I did my best.

You do YOURS!


Motherly Wisdom by Dana Neal © 2014, C.K.Q. LLC

Dana Neal
www.coachdana.biz 

Motherly Wisdom #12: Pray for Your Children

Pray for and with your children. Teach them how to truly trust God.

When you can get on your knees for your children you need to get on your knees with them; they can't learn if you don't teach. 

In this day and time, our children need covering in every aspect of their lives. Too many are dying physically and, also, mentally. They don't know how to handle the trials of life, so they either suffer in silence or lash out. Keep them covered. 

The Bible says pray without ceasing, which means, you have to KNOW that God is with you. 

Never under estimate your power in your prayers, because God says to come to HIM. 

Show your children how to go to the throne as well. If you study Proverbs, you will read it says to train up a child in the way they should go....never let them LEAVE HOME without prayer. 



Dana Neal
Coach and Mom! 

Motherly Wisdom #5: It's not the Material Things

Let's face it, if you truly think a gift makes it all better, you are so sadly mistaken. I mean, as a mother, if you have been ignorant, you better believe buying ME A PRESENT won't change how ignorant you PROBABLY STILL ARE; there is no substitution for that.  

If you think material things makes it all better you're wrong, unless you're paying rent and buying Mama diamonds. Yes, I diamonds might help, but rent would be better. 

I'm sharing this THIS WAY, because some of your children, are truly using and abusing you, and THINK, that a gift makes it all better. 

Where do they get that mindset? What is wrong with them and the intelligence God gave them? Why not just act right? Why not just do right? 

I know from my MOTHERLY EXPERIENCE, that my children have tried this with me and it has utterly failed! EPIC FAIL. I would rather go without than have them continue to be foolish about what matters most to me. 

What does matter most? THAT THEY CHANGE THEIR MINDSET AND GROW UP. 

You might be thinking the same thing about your children, may be not; either way, don't let material things trump the life you want them to lead, and how they respect you in the process. 

Dana Neal
Coach and Mama! 

Motherly Widom #3: Grand-kids see all

 Grand-kids are the epitome of time right now;nothing like their parents at that age. 

What I mean is, when you look at your grandchildren, they aren't acting like their parents did, they are acting like how their parents are teaching them now. 

I look at my grandchildren and I see how they are learning EVERY LITTLE THING IN LIFE right now. Whether its how they eat, or how they argue, how they clean, or how they sleep, I see what my daughter does at home through them. 

It is a blessing to see them catch on to some things so minute, but then again, you want them to just have a life fit for them in their little bodies. 

Keep a close watch on your grand-children; any hurt harm or danger, you will see in their actions and reactions. 


Dana Neal 
Coach and Mama! 

Motherly Wisdom #2: We're Good

The best is in your own 4 walls; don't compare everyone else's triumphs to your trials. 
My mother always compared me to others. I tried never to do that to my children. If they received 4.0's or 0.0's they were still my children and I loved them. I encouraged them and would want to help them achieve what they could for them. In OUR HOUSE, that's what mattered. 

What everyone else could and could not do in THEIR house was not our issue. WE'RE GOOD. That is the understanding that is important to gather. What is best in your own four walls, should be best. 

Never compare your children to someone else, and never undermine their test and trials as mediocre. As a mother, you shouldn't be a friend, but you shouldn't be a hindrance either. 

Look at your life right now, and determine have you been hurting your house, or helping it? Remember the Proverbs 31 Woman, she didn't sleep, and her best benefit was to her HOUSE, not the neighbors! 


Let them know WE'RE GOOD

Dana Neal
Coach and Mama! 

Thinking Thursday~~God Made Me, ME

When I was born
God made me, ME

Not a reflection of my leaders
Fore Fathers
Cousins
Parents
Not like you

God made me, Me

Gave me a mind
To use
To Choose, HIM
To walk upright
Head High
Not with pride
With a smile
and JOY inside

God made me, Me

Not to be like you
Or act like them
But to be the way
He wanted ME

My own person
My own life
My own way
According to HIS plan

God made me, Me

So don't get in my face
With what you think
You may know about ME

Don't get in my face
With that made up love
saying you LOVE ME
and know what's best

Don't get in my face
When you get uptight
Knowing I love the LORD
and I will NOT fight
argure
fuss
cuss

Don't get mad at me
Because
I'm not you
Don't get mad at me
Because
I'm going in the right direction

God made me, Me

I'm not you

God made me and HE surly made you

Structure

It's been on my mind~~ why does one son not eat what is given and why does one son eat too much? Well one son is growing and the other only pays attention to what's in front of him...the t.v., the computer, the mom. So I decided that the Moma has to do what is best for all the kids...even the teenager who thinks junk is a good substance for missing lunch. ??????????????

Prov. 13: 24 "He who spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is careful to discipline him."

It's time that my kids had a little more structure. It's time we sat down again and ate together. We pray together in the morning...we talk about things that are important to us together...we need to eat together. 1. So I can see what is NOT happening in the mouths of my children. 2. I can get them involved in my cooking. :)

My study bible says that the "rod" imparts wisdom and promotes a healthy and happy family. (Prv. 29:17) Discipline is rooted in love. (Prv. 3: 11-12)

....and structure is not bad! Momas are to be everything to everybody with the strength from the Lord praying and prasing him all the time.

Prv. 26-27 says: She speaks with wisdom and faithful instruction is on her tongue. {Instruct the kids on what and how to eat}....She watches over the affairs of her househould and does not eat the bread of idlesness.{keep the kids in check!, and don't talk about the family to other people.}

So, I praise God for this direction and wisdom today...because it's important that we, MOMAS, don't steer from the direction of the word. The bible is my little handbook on getting it right for my kids and myself.

Have I put my trust in things.........or even people??

I don't know where I have been. Times have changed all around me, and I haven't paid attention to the wants and needs of others. Sometimes, I start off the day so well with prayer and conviction (yes, the spirit convicts) I don't get here to write. That will change...I'm writing today...now and forever more..(so cliche')

Let me share a scripture that I was taken to today that caused me to think.

Job 31: 24-28 "If I have put my trust in gold or said to pure gold, 'You are my security,' if I have rejoiced over my great wealth, the fortune my hands had gained, if I have regarded the sun in its radiance or the moon moving in splendor, so that my heart was secretly enticed and my hand offered them a kiss of homage, then these also would be sins to be judged, for I would have been unfaithful to God on high."

Job is saying had he put his trust in things he would have sinned against the Lord. That is wrong...put HIS trust in things...that's not faith...you can't put your faith in things in seen..

What does Hebrews say? Verse 1 "Now faith is being sure of what we hope for and certain of what we do not see." I know the Father can do all things.....I have the faith the size of a mustard...I don't put my trust in things or people.....because the physical will fail you immensely...but the spiritual will guide you, correct you and pick you up if you let HIM....so

Where have you put your trust or better yet your faith??