Whether you are the Mom or the Dad: Don't be the one causing the drama.
You have to be better than the other. If she has issues with your new relationship, don't feed into it. If he has issues with your living your life, don't feed into it.
If she's on welfare, refusing to get a job, don't hold back child support.
If he's not paying child support don't keep the child from him.
Drama comes in when you get mad at the other for going on with their lives despite the child, or children you have together. Stop it!
It should never be about the two of you EVER AGAIN now that your child is born!
Dana Neal
Coach and Mom
God's awesome power and grace are evident in our lives. Women need to grasp their spirituality and obtain the breakthroughs necessary for growth and elevation.
Showing posts with label child support. Show all posts
Showing posts with label child support. Show all posts
Saturday, December 13, 2014
Tuesday, December 09, 2014
Motherly Wisdom #9: Your kids represent You
Your kids represent you so they should always look better than you. (Unless you are a millionaire) I'm so for real about this, you just don't understand.
I was on welfare. I had limited funds, and children to try to raise. Child support was limited and I had to finish obtaining my Associates Degree in Police Science.
There wasn't one time that I left my house and my children didn't look put together. I could have looked homeless, while they looked like they lived in a mansion and had a yacht. It didn't matter that I was in school and on welfare, my children deserved better. When you have kids out of wedlock, its bad enough you have limited choices, but the last thing you want is to have your babies at daycare being talked about.
Yes, yes; I was one of those worried about what people thought, but, when it came to the kids it wasn't JUST THAT SIMPLE. If your kids look like they are being neglected in any way, child protective services would be knocking at your door. So, I never wanted that for them; I didn't mind looking like I was neglecting me FOR THEM!
That is the way you have to be; those are the choices you need to make until you learn how to either bargain shop, or build wealth!
Dana Neal
Coach and Mama!
I was on welfare. I had limited funds, and children to try to raise. Child support was limited and I had to finish obtaining my Associates Degree in Police Science.
There wasn't one time that I left my house and my children didn't look put together. I could have looked homeless, while they looked like they lived in a mansion and had a yacht. It didn't matter that I was in school and on welfare, my children deserved better. When you have kids out of wedlock, its bad enough you have limited choices, but the last thing you want is to have your babies at daycare being talked about.
Yes, yes; I was one of those worried about what people thought, but, when it came to the kids it wasn't JUST THAT SIMPLE. If your kids look like they are being neglected in any way, child protective services would be knocking at your door. So, I never wanted that for them; I didn't mind looking like I was neglecting me FOR THEM!
That is the way you have to be; those are the choices you need to make until you learn how to either bargain shop, or build wealth!
Dana Neal
Coach and Mama!
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