I was Her....Olivia Pope

How did I get here with this title? I made a discovery in the past 30 days for which I may need counseling for but, nonetheless, a discovery. I realized I was Olivia Pope; the fixer, the caregiver, the saver, the....WOMAN.

Being a woman is a given; but some women find themselves weak. Olivia, gets weak, and then REVERTS BACK TO BEING STRONG. Where does that strength come from? It comes from being the fixer, the caregiver, the saver; it comes from being the best at the best of what we do and not what we're not.

I was her; Olivia Pope. I AM HER. 

No, not in seasons, of course; but seasoned. Being seasoned is experience. I am HER. I am the one who MOVES MOUNTAINS for people and then I have MORE EXPERIENCES because of my mountain-moving abilities.

I am her; I don't even regret being her.  Why? Our lives are wrapped around what other people say about us, even think about us, and we should have no regrets about what we've learned. Our lives have knowledge and wisdom wrapped into them NO MATTER HOW GOOD OR BAD they have been.

HERE'S YOUR MESSAGE:
Never have regrets. Never ever have regrets, because you can't learn if you have regrets. You can't see God in your life if you have regrets. If you are offered another day, another morning, you don't have time for regrets. You have time for lessons. You have time for experiences. You have time for LIFE, HEALTH, and STRENGTH.

You are a GLADIATOR (Olivia's team). A gladiator is a person who engages in a fight or controversy. Don't turn away from controversy or fight.

"My white hat is bigger than your hat."

Olivia knows what she is worth, and she refuses to accept anything lower.

Motherly Wisdom #5: It's not the Material Things

Let's face it, if you truly think a gift makes it all better, you are so sadly mistaken. I mean, as a mother, if you have been ignorant, you better believe buying ME A PRESENT won't change how ignorant you PROBABLY STILL ARE; there is no substitution for that.  

If you think material things makes it all better you're wrong, unless you're paying rent and buying Mama diamonds. Yes, I diamonds might help, but rent would be better. 

I'm sharing this THIS WAY, because some of your children, are truly using and abusing you, and THINK, that a gift makes it all better. 

Where do they get that mindset? What is wrong with them and the intelligence God gave them? Why not just act right? Why not just do right? 

I know from my MOTHERLY EXPERIENCE, that my children have tried this with me and it has utterly failed! EPIC FAIL. I would rather go without than have them continue to be foolish about what matters most to me. 

What does matter most? THAT THEY CHANGE THEIR MINDSET AND GROW UP. 

You might be thinking the same thing about your children, may be not; either way, don't let material things trump the life you want them to lead, and how they respect you in the process. 

Dana Neal
Coach and Mama!